Mindfulness Podcast: Vulnerability & Courage
Judith Krause discusses the importance of courage and vulnerability.
It’s become a catch-cry recently, but what does it mean to be vulnerable, and what does it mean for your journey to parenthood? An expert explains.
Wouldn’t it be ideal if all dreams came to fruition easily? We tend to think getting pregnant is the most natural thing in the world, but for so many people it’s not that straightforward. If your goal of parenthood hasn’t happened yet, it’s important that you look after your mental wellbeing. Staying connected to your loved ones can help you navigate challenging times, says psychotherapist, social worker and fertility counsellor Judith Krause. And one of the best ways to strengthen those relationships is to practise vulnerability.
“We have this misconception that we can go it alone, but we’re hardwired for connection,” says Krause. “And when we don’t have connection we suffer – we need other people to help us be ourselves.”
Krause says being vulnerable with people we love can help build trust.
“Trust is made up of really, really tiny moments of being vulnerable,” she explains. “Vulnerability is not oversharing. Vulnerability is about pulling on the brave boots, being fearful and moving through it anyway.”
Krause recommends the 4-7-8 breathing technique for calming anxious thoughts:
“Put your tongue behind your top teeth where your gum line meets your teeth, and it stays there for the entire exercise,” she says. “Then breathe in through your nose for the count of four. Hold your breath for the count of seven. And then exhale through your mouth for the count of eight with some force behind it and make it measured and controlled.”
Another way to boost mental wellbeing is to practise being grateful. Krause says many of us tend to fall into a pattern of thinking ‘I’ll be happy when I have a holiday’, for example, or ‘when I get a new job’.
“What’s the underlying message that we’re telling ourselves? I’m not happy right now. But we can be happy by being grateful for what we have right here, right now,” Krause says.